Can't blame 'em!
Personally, I'm sick of the billions of dollars of advertising revenue that emphasize the least important moments of a relationship: the giving and receiving of jewelry ($200+ for a kiss that starts with K, fellas! Pay up!), chocolates, flowers (nothing says eternal love like a dozen roses that will live for a week. I know, I know, tradition, they're pretty. Just saying).
When is our media ever going to drop this romanticized expression of relationships, their relentless pushing of this highlight reel) as the definition of love?
Sure, love is about romance, about connection, about caring for each other and loving each other deeply. But, having married young (4 years this year baby! 4 years of moving cross-country and all-encompassing challenges we have survived together! Love you Max!!!) and now seeing my friends get married - you have to realize that what you see of other people's relationships and marriages on Facebook, or in tabloids, or in advertising, is a highlight reel.
|This is a picture from my highlight reel ;-) Possibly the highlight OF my highlight reel. Everyone has one. Even - especially - your friend with the perfect life/relationship/marriage/dog|
You will not be the laughing cuddling couple every night of your life. I don't care who you are - you won't. Just trust me. You will fight over stupid things; you will say and maybe even do things you regret; you will bicker over who put the toilet paper on the wrong way. The sooner you accept this, the sooner you will come to appreciate love relationships for what they are - wonderful, interesting, fulfilling, requiring work, needing commitment and communication, but not ever perfect and not predictable. The sooner you realize this (it took me a while, but then again, I got married at 20 - I knew this marriage would have to endure some rocky times, some figuring-things-out, lots of learning when I got into it), the happier you will be.
|Babies!! We got married less than a year after this picture was taken.|
Valentine's Day, for me, is never a big event with lots of hoopla and gifts. However, on this day - like any other, but perhaps with a bit more focus - I try to make an effort to appreciate those around me. I try to live with every day as a blank slate - if a friend hurt me yesterday, I cried all my tears yesterday. Today is a new day, today is all I have, and today, yesterday doesn't matter. (This is easier said than done sometimes.)
Love the people who matter the most to you today. You don't ever know when your last chance will be.