2012 was an interesting year. I competed - something I never thought I'd do with any measure of success. I went back to school... and then back to the working world. (And now I'm in both. Why not?)
So. What are my goals for 2013?
1. To get straight As in all of my classes. I'm taking 15 credits while working full-time this semester. Two weeks down, 14 to go! What is that, 15%? Yikes.
2. To learn more about relationships - specifically love relationships. I've bought three well-respected books so far and I am absolutely fascinated. Our love relationships are, at the core, so simple, but we cloud them and bury them under things - positive or negative - that we take from our early lives, our environment, our friends, our religion (if any), our role models.
I'm also dispensing internet advice, so
(the last two paragraphs are mine). I think I want to be a psychotherapist when I grow up. Too bad you need an advanced degree - a PhD in some states! - and then get paid about $59,000 a year.
3. Grow closer to Max. We'll be celebrating our fourth wedding (more like marriage; there was no ceremony) anniversary this year. I am a very lucky girl; he's a great guy =) But I think it's important to continually work on connection and closeness, and very regrettably, that is something I kind of neglected during contest prep. NOT WORTH IT. For like, a minute on stage? And the privilege of spending for the suit, the tanning, the NPC card, the show entry fee, etc. That was unbelievably short-sighted of me.
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| HOW HOT IS HE, by the way?!?!? |
You always think you're not going to be the one who turns into, well, a cold bitch, during your prep. You always think, "No, those people who are grouchy, neglect relationships, become distant - those are just the weak people, or the people who diet stupidly."
Let me just debunk that for ya right now. It doesn't matter how sane your diet is; what your temperament is like; how long you diet for. Let me repeat: It doesn't matter. It won't help you.
Whether you compete in Bikini or Figure or Women's Bodybuilding, you are going down to an unnatural bodyfat percentage. And when your body perceives that it's starving, that it's in danger.... your mood goes straight down the toilet.
Sure, some of us handle it better than others. But if you show me a person who said they were never grouchy or distant or fatigued or irritable, I'll show you a liar.
How was your 2012? (I know I'm late.) What are you looking forward to in 2013?



Good to see you blogging! I'm glad you doing well - love these goals. :)
ReplyDeleteHey hey! It's nice to see a blog post and hear from you. I think your 2013 goals are great. Props to you for working full time AND taking 15 credits! That is amazing!
ReplyDeleteHey, so good to see a post from you!! Good luck with classes -- it's going to be tough but I know you can do it. Love the rest of your goals too, and I hope you and Max get a chance to get back on track with each other, you to are just so cute. Have a great week Sable!
ReplyDeleteYOU ARE BACK! Yay! Keep writing when you feel like it. I still love reading.
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Nice to hear from you - I've missed your posts so much! I love your goals and you sound like you're on the right track <3 Marriage isn't always easy, but what matters is whether you're committed to fix it! Good luck with all of your classes :)
ReplyDeletegood to see you back in blogger land!
ReplyDeletesounds like a busy semester ahead,but you got this !!!
I missed you!
ReplyDelete2012 was a year of mental detachment for me. A lot of great stuff happened, for sure, but I mentally checked out for a good six months of it.
I'd like to spend less time sleep walking through life this year. I'm not sure how to achieve that. Everything I can actively strive for I feel like I already have, so it's weird to just...not have real goals. And any goal I choose is just for the sake of having a goal. I figured that out last year. I need to strike some sort of mental bargain where I can function with not having anything to work towards, I guess.
Lovely to see a post from you!
ReplyDeletePlease don't beat yourself up over what may have happened during contest prep. I think we're all guilty of 'it'll never happen to me' syndrome in one form or another. It doesn't make you a cold-hearted person...in fact you strike me as quite the opposite.
In a non-creepy way, I think you make an equally hot couple!
xxx
Welcome back! Great goals.
ReplyDeleteI don't really do specific goals, I just try to be the very best I can be in the moment I'm in. So cheesey and gross.
ReplyDeleteI hope you stay back :D
I'm glad to see you back with some awesome goals. Anyways, I've read a lot about love and relationships and it in general. I'm curious to hear your thoughts as well!
ReplyDeleteYAY!! So glad to see you back in the blog-o-sphere. You'd be an excellent counselor/psychotherapist. Keep in mind that there are assistantships available for strong students that give a 20 hour teaching or research position in exchange for a nice stipend and usually free tuition. If that's really a dream, it's doable!!
ReplyDeleteYay, welcome back! I've missed you. Love your goals! And thanks for being so honest. Remember, always here if you need me :)
ReplyDeleteGlad to see you again :) Hope you're doing a bit better. Liking the goals though - they're great ^^
ReplyDeleteGlad your back to blogging!
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