Last week I spent a lot of time e-mailing and texting back & forth with a friend who has lost 10lb but thinks she looks the same. That conversation inspired me to post this photo...
...on Facebook, captioned with, "Sometimes it's hard to see how much progress you're making without taking progress pics! I feel like I look the same now as I did 8 weeks ago, but thanks to my weekly progress pics, I know I have actually lost weight! If you are trying to lose fat OR gain muscle, take progress pics at least once a month!"
Drama ensued, both publicly, on my wall, and privately, via Facebook messages, calls, and texts.
I got comments ranging from, "I prefer how you look in the picture on the left!" to "You look like Skeletor" to "What do you weigh now, 80lb?" (I weigh much more than that.)
Some of those comments came from friends and family who saw me struggle with anorexia, and I totally understand (and addressed) their concerns.
What I don't understand is why society thinks it's okay to criticize skinny/slender/thin people's bodies when it's not considered acceptable to criticize overweight or obese people's bodies.
For example, an old friend of mine lambasted me in a comment (which she later deleted) on the picture, then messaged me to ask if I could help her lose a hundred pounds in five months (no) so that she would meet the BMI criteria for enlistment in the military.
Imagine for a second that she had posted a picture of herself in a sports bra and shorts. If I'd left even a mild comment, like, "You don't look healthy; I hope you're taking care of yourself," I would have been verbally abused and subsequently de-friended by most of our mutual friends.
Why is that? Why is it okay to call someone "too skinny" but not "fat?"
PS: I'm really not as tiny as I look in that picture: I'm relaxing there. Here is a pic of me flexing the next day.